Urban Parenting Tips for Young Moms, Dads and Grandparents By Edye Deloch-Hughes

Dear Edye,

I just read that Florida passed a bill outlawing sagging jeans in their schools. I, being a son and a father, feel that it is just a style. That people should wear whatever they want.  Women have more leniency in their clothing. They wear short skirts, no bra straps. no underwear, etc. But men have more restrictions. It’s just a style. I don’t choose to wear it. But I won’t outlaw others who want to.

Signed,

Dad Who Doesn’t Sag (Not by law, by choice)

Dear Dad,

Some people think the new Florida bill is a long time coming and should spread throughout the U.S.. Others like you,  think it’s a violation of a person’s rights; and that it targets young black males. Personally, I can’t stand the style.  The look originated in prisons when belts were forbidden for fear of suicide attempts. It spread into the streets.  I also heard that it was a sexual invitation to other men.

Bill passes prohibiting sagging pants in Florida schools

Am I glad such a law exists? Hesitantly, I say yes, because of the blatantly negative and vulgar image it gives. One young black male said to me, “I think the Florida law is good. Nobody should wear sagging pants because it’s tacky.” The goal is to create an environment of learning and readiness, which this dress style does not convey.  On the other hand, Florida’s anti-sagging bill could open the door for restrictions that may infringe on other rights.

We as parents should not let the law do what we should be doing at home. We should be teaching values, pride and respect. Lack of parental guidance and moral upbringing is, in my opinion, raising hell.  Because of the lack of training, some of us parents allow our sons and daughters to sink into the abyss of indecency. It’s reflected in how they dress and conduct themselves in public. Even some parents need to check what messages they send by how they dress and act.

Somehow, we have accepted this “do what you feel” philosophy into our culture as normal. Speaking of culture,  Hip hop has many cool points in my book, however this so-called “sag swag” ain’t one of them.  Let me also say, though many young African-American males sport the saggy pants style, there are whites and other nonblacks who wear it as well.

It will be interesting to see the response to Florida’s new bill. The NAACP and ACLU are against it  for the reasons I mentioned above. What do you think? Should sagging pants be against the law?

Here’s a video bonus “Pull Ya Pantz Up” rap

Comments on: "Does your son think sag means swag? Sagging pants outlawed in Florida schools." (6)

  1. I think schools are a different story. You want children to be concentrating on their studies, not on what jewelry or clothing they have. The pictures in this post are pretty awful. I would not let my child out of the house with any “private” areas showing.

  2. P.S. Love the video.

  3. Hate them — and unfortunately it’s my daughter that tries to wear them with shorts underneath — yikes — I’d love to see it outlawed everywhere — style sense should never supercede common sense !!!

    • Muriel Jackson said:

      Edye–Heard you talk about this but saw thisblog through Bronzecomm. Nice job, and where did you ever find these pics? They just about make the cast for you. DISGUSTING!

      Keep up the good work.

  4. Personal freedom is important but so is decency. Just to mention the fact that cracks showing may be illegal, remember the indecent exposure laws. If city cops chose to invoke this, I’m sure minority sons and daughters would be the first in the cells. Lord knows we don’t need to give another excuse for incarceration in our communities.

    I would also like to point out that you sure couldn’t show up to a job like that and school is the job that young people need to take seriously.

    Love the video and will post it on my facebook page.

  5. Iris Deaderick said:

    I was told that the “sagging” idea came from inmates in prison.Sagging pants was never meant to be fashionable. Prisoners wear their pants this low because belts are a popular way to commit suicide by hanging oneself, to hang others, or to use as a weapon in fights. Prisoners are also not allowed to have shoestrings for the same reasons. But there is an even more obvious reason why pants are sagging in prison. If the pants are below a man’s bottom, it is to introduce to other men that he is homosexual. Young men are wearing their pants low and don’t even realize the history of why it started.
    My son, when he was a teenager, was allowed to wear his below his waist with his butt hanging out, but was allowed, as a form of expression, to wear them baggy.

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